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HRM Today - Blog Archive » Punk Rock HR Question: Webcams and Pervy Dudes — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 23:52:18 +0000

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By: Mark Jacinto

Mark Jacinto — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 16:19:24 +0000

yes i know some people like that. just remember, they have no bad intentions. so dont take anything personally. what i think should be done: turn your “switch” on whenever you talk to him. in one ear, out the other. no need to get affected. remember, there is little you can do to control him. what you can do is control yourself. try it! think of him as your nagging mother whom you love and will put up with no matter what happens. im not saying you should not be direct and tell him to shut up. but be kind when you do so! i think that being his friend will benefit you in the long run. just like your mother.

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By: Patrick Erwin

Patrick Erwin — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 17:26:50 +0000

I know I have an unusual perspective of the world. And I can be a know-it-all (or as my partner would say in German, a klugschiesse) from time to time.

But I keep that on a leash at work. Or at least I hope. I generally STFU and do my work. I have another platform for my odd ideas and hobbies. It’s called a BLOG.

Srsly: if it was just talking and words I’d agree with some of the other posters and wonder if it was Asperger’s. That part of it requires some thought if you want to be sensitive to the other guy’s needs.

But as far as the contact goes: The next time that touching happens, there has to be a statement to this dude, with eye contact. Quick but direct. Like: “When you touch me, it makes me uncomfortable. Please don’t do that again.” No apologies, no negotiation. Just state the facts. And follow up that statement with an email to managers/supervisors/HR.

By: Kirsten ten Brink

Kirsten ten Brink — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 16:58:16 +0000

Puf, love the advice but I wouldn’t give images of anything involving a shower!

By: HR Hooligan

HR Hooligan — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 14:16:45 +0000

I prefer Victoria Stillwell to Cesar. She’s got the dominatrix approach going on. Mind you, I don’t mind Cesar but it’s always the same thing with him. At least Victoria always has different ideas to train the people with. It also bugs me that Cesar has started playing psychologist with the humans. Anyway…back to the co-worker. The direct approach can be tried first but I feel, like a few others, that it won’t work. This weirdo co-worker probably realizes that he is bothering this guy and gets his jollies from it. I wonder if this guy even has an HR person, working in such a small office. Perhaps just ignoring him, except for work purposes, is the best thing if he doesn’t take to the direct approach. When weirdo guy realizes he isn’t getting a reaction he may just back off.

By: GenerationXpert

GenerationXpert — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 12:33:46 +0000

I say help the weirdo find another job. I did this once with a coworker that I hated, but she didn’t know I hated her.

By: Laurie

Laurie — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 03:37:44 +0000

@mark you are crazy.

By: Laurie

Laurie — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 22:59:19 +0000

@JK Is that called gaslighting? I never saw the movie.

@Fran Cesar Millan has the luxury of working with receptive dogs, most without deep psychological problems. Well I don’t know about this. I have some knowledge of Cesar through family members and he works with some deeply wounded dogs. That being said, you are right that this situation is tough.

@Jon You can’t argue with crazy.

@HRChick I think Toby is the least effective way to go when someone is truly crazy. Time and time again, I’ve watched HR departments make things worse — just because they come into the situation at the WORST POSSIBLE MOMENT and are expected to fix it. Poor HR. Poor Toby.

@InkedHR We are so lawyered up in our society, aren’t we? Documentation for the sake of proof where recollection and honestly used to do just fine…

@Mark So true.

@Dale Whoa, you are bad ass.

@Jenn Good advice. It’s almost like you used to work in HR or sumthin.

@HRU Down, boy, down!

@Sid You need a NUT UP class.

@Marsha I like that this is an issue between two guys. It makes the harassment/touching aspect that much more interesting!

@BZ Wonder what the weird guy says about HIS coworker? I was thinking the same thing, LOL.

@Low All good points — especially the one on smoking. A-freakin-men.

@HRPuf This was advice in a self-defense class I took. Some guy is giving you the willies? Staring at you? Start barking. Howl. Growl. Make babbling noises. He’ll leave you alone.

By: Mark Stelzner

Mark Stelzner — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 22:51:00 +0000

I like Puf’s approach. I’d suggest turning the weird up to 11. Show him you wear crazy like a moo moo – oversized and in bright colors. Accidentally play an episode of Dexter on your iTunes. Turn up the volume. Let him know you own a boat, some plastic bags and a disturbed past.

All will be well, trust me.